If you pay attention to the movies and novels, you may think that as temperatures rise, romantic encounters with attractive strangers rise with it. There is something about summer that brings an intense emotional high. While there’s nothing wrong with a little fantasy (like spending long nights staring at the stars with a guy you just met), keep an open mind about the relationship and don’t get too attached. I encourage you to use this time to have fun, explore and remain open

That doesn’t mean your fling (no matter how long or short) will be a waste of time. Everyone and every romance can be a teacher, so I suggest you use this time to learn whatever you can from the person you’ve met. That way if it does end, your feelings won’t be crushed AND you got a life lesson you can carry with you forever. The lesson can show up in many ways and could be an opportunity to stretch and grow.

Even though I’m giving you a fair warning, you might get completely smitten when you’re caught up in somebody new. To help you, here are some big signs to look out for to know whether or not your relationship will last. If it bloomed out of lust and sex, it may not last once summer is over because relationships are more than just physical chemistry. Did you two meet on the beach or at a summer party? If you aren’t going to be in these places regularly

If you’re more worried about finding a summer fling than you are about losing one, these tips will help. Don’t wait on someone to find you. Initiate conversations with others. If there’s a guy you like, talk to him. It doesn’t matter if you’re at the grocery store, on the beach or in a coffee shop, just say hello and go from there. If there’s a neighborhood cookout or other community function, go! This is your chance to meet others and mingle.